Recently, a woman of value in my life has told me that I need to play damsel in distress in order to not only find a man, but to keep one around too. I seriously looked at her and laughed thinking she was completely kidding…but she wasn’t…not even a little bit. This scares me. I’m an independent person and I don’t “need” anyone, but my Savior to survive. Yes, I would love to have a man in my life that I will eventually marry, but I really don’t see why I have to pretend to be needy in order to do so. The fact of the matter is that I like mowing the yard, I can fix most things that break, I can change my own oil and air filter and tires and breaks, and if my car makes a noise…I usually know what it is. Don’t get me wrong, I would LOVE to have someone to help me out and sometimes do it instead of me, but I refuse to play dumb or needy in any kind of relationship. I think neediness is pathetic to be honest with you. This woman said it’s wrong of me to fix something that breaks if I’m at home doing nothing and my husband is at work because he wouldn’t feel needed. I must have missed that day of school or something because if I was at work all day and my husband cooked dinner…I certainly wouldn’t be mad because I felt un-needed.
I’m sorry that I am secure and I know who I am and what I want, but I always thought there were men out there who appreciated a girl with some sense and some know-how. As a matter of fact, I know too many guys today that don’t know how to change their own oil and brakes…..wouldn’t I essentially be helping them out? It just doesn’t make sense to me. In middle and high school, they tell us that we don’t “need” guys and we should find ourselves on our own. Well, I’m one of the few that listened and now that I know who I am….no one wants to date me because they can’t be a “hero”…..I don’t even get it a little bit. Celibacy here I come!
All opinions are welcome…..especially honest ones!
